Family constellation experience!

Hello everybody, I hope you are all well and basking in the light of the divine. Well, well, well, a couple of days ago I took part in my first family constellation experience. A friend of mine had mentioned a few times how it profoundly changed her relation to her family members and so I thought I would give it a go. The first day of the workshop, just at the beginning of the day I was sitting in a circle with the other partecipants wondering how it all worked and my biggest fear was ' what if I don't get anything out of it???'... fear that I then expressed to the group...( and I was not the only one). My two first big 'ah a moments' happened the first day and it was while I was in the role of representative for somebody else. I don't believe in coincidences so it happened that I was representative in a family situation that in many aspects was a reflection of my own family situation..and this happened twice, two different constellations...I think a first shift happened during these two constellations, I was there in the 'field' thinking ' OMG this is exactly the dynamic of my family!'.

My own constellation was done on the second day. Also, another funny thing happened: there were 3 constellators, in other words 3 people running the workshop and on the first day I thought I was sure who of the 3 I wanted to do my constellation, reason being I liked the way she worked and each of the 3 runs the constellation in slightly different ways. On day two though, I was sitting in the circle and they called up for somebody to stand up who wanted the constellation done. It wasn't the constellator that I wanted but I big push from somewhere inside of me made me get up and go towards the constellator...to cut the story short, she was the perfect person for my constellation and the experience of it was profound, insightful, powerful. I don't believe in coincidences I believe that if we can trust the process we will always find ourselves in the right place at the right time and get the best healing that is available for us.

I deeply recommend family constellations, they give a deep insight and understanding of family dynamics and can be a powerful tool to be combined with other self-development work.

All my love,

xxx Shakti xxx  

"Love that brings freedom is the only true love. Love that creates bondage is not love at all; it is something else parading as love. That's what is happening all over the world: people in love feel in chains, subtle chains, golden chains, but chains are chains - whether they are made of gold or steel it makes no difference. Sometimes the golden chains are far more difficult to get out of than the steel chains, because with golden chains you become attached because the golden chains look like ornaments. Because they are golden a clinging arises.

In the name of love people are living in golden chains. Their houses have become prisons. Their love life is not truly a love life; it is just the opposite of love. It is hatred, it is jealousy, it is possessiveness; it is anger, rage, conflict; it is the whole power politics. Because it is not true love it is bound to be an ego trip. And wherever there are two egos, conflict is bound to arise, so all lovers are continuously quarreling; quarreling becomes their occupation.

They can't sit in silence. They can't sit just looking into each others' eyes; they can't sit just holding each others' hand and looking at the moon. They can't meditate together. Their life knows nothing that love should make available to them. Love makes all that is great available to lovers but in the first place love has to be there.

Love makes meditation possible.

Love is the deepest meditation.

If lovers don't know meditation they are not lovers. They may be fulfilling some instinctive sexual desire but it is not love. They have not yet known the higher dimension of love. They are crawling in the lowest, dark, dismal world of sexuality. They have not looked up at the stars.

Love brings meditation, love brings silence. Love brings a new poetry to your being, a new song to your heart. And the ultimate gift of love is freedom: it gives you freedom and it gives you the capacity to give freedom to others. Only when love becomes freedom know that you have loved.

If something of freedom is missing from it, then go on searching, then go on improving. Then remember continuously that it is not yet what it has to be, that it is still something else, not love, something falling short. And if one can remember it, that very remembrance helps one to find love.

It is not very far away, it is just inside your being. If you start looking for it and searching for it... In the beginning it is a groping in the dark, a blind groping, but sooner or later you are bound to stumble upon it. And that day is the greatest day of your life when you have stumbled upon the energy called love because immediately you are released from all bondage. And not only that: you release all those who love you from all bondage. You become non-possessive, non-jealous; you start giving unconditionally. Now your joy is the sheer sharing of your being. You don't demand anything in return; you have no expectations. When you don't have any expectations, no situation can frustrate you; then each situation is a fulfillment."

OSHO 

 ♥ 

Magical effects of the snow !

The snow has arrived a bit early in Brighton this year! It always makes my heart smile and dance and my inner child wants to go outside and play, play and play. There is something magical about snow, and, it's true it disrupts our lives a bit ( or a lot!) but there is a true blessing in it too: we have a chance to stop! Stop our daily routine, feel a bit of discomfort because of it but we also have the possibility of taking a deep breath, relax, let our inner child out....and maybe we can get some insights into our lives and the way we go about it. Maybe by being 'forced' to slow down we get the chance to see our true blessings, appreciate who we are a bit more and see the bigger picture in life. 

I got to walk a lot in Brighton these last two days as I haven't felt safe using my car in the snow. I have really enjoyed it, it's good exercise, I have taken lots of good pictures of Brighton, I have practiced 'mindful meditation' while walking ( mindful of not falling!!); you see, all useful things that I have done THANKS to the snow! There is also an ice skating rink near Brighton Pavillion which I look forward to trying out very soon!!!

Warm hugs to all 

Shakti x

LIVING CHANGE

Over the last few weeks I have felt a definite shift in me concerning where my life focus lies.I spent many years being very very spiritual and feeling the presence of spirit and its guidance in everything I did. I never felt part of the material universe and felt at times like a fish out of water. 

I definitely still feel how critical my spiritual beliefs have been in giving me a sense of purpose in life. However something fundamental have  changed; I feel more focused on wanting to bring something forth into the material world, wanting to create something, to be more in my body and 'in this world but not of it'.

The way I am feeling is quite exciting: it's as if I had filled in the 'spiritual cup' and now needed to start filling a different cup, the more 'bodily', 'material' one. So in a way I feel as if I have somehow 'accomplished' something and am now 'evolved enough' in spiritual terms to be able to switch focus into another area of life.

I thank the universe for this shift because I have been craving new excitement in my life, and to feel more complete within myself. I now have the opportunity to explore more and cannot wait for it.

Love to all,

Shakti xxx

THE FORCE OF LOVE

Sitting at Waterstones today reading one of my favourite books, The Power by Rhonda Byrne I am learning how love is the most powerful force in the world, I have experienced this for myself on many occasions. 

Love is all around us, sometimes ( or, rather, often) people complain that there is not enough love in this world but the truth is love is an energy and it can be found everywhere, I mean EVERYWHERE. It is available to us at any given moment, it is a frequency: if you are aligned with love you can feel it even if you are in unappealing circumstances ie a crowded tube, a traffic jam and so on. LOVE HAS A FREQUENCY and you can decide at any moment to switch from a frequency of misery and negativity to one of gratitude and love. Gratitude is a fast channel to start tuning into the love frequency.

What Rhonda Byrne says in her book is that you can switch from negative to positive feelings easily, it is a choice: for example you've just had an argument with a friend and are full of resentment towards that friend of yours for the way they treated you. You have two choices: the first choice is to keep focusing on the pain you feel, the words said and every negative aspect of the argument you've just had; the second choice is to bring in and focus on positive feelings and outcomes around the argument: for example you stood up for yourself and spoke your truth with your friend ( that is honouring who you are), you might make a realisation about yourself:  that you need to learn to be more diplomatic or speak your own truth more, or that you have some old anger inside of you and THANKS to that argument you are now realising the deep seated pain and anger and you have the big opportunity to heal that part of yourself now. These are just few examples but you know what I mean: finding the positive in seemingly 'negative' situations will bring you to a frequency of 'being positive' and therefore of 'feeling love'.

I highly recommend you to read this book if you are a believer that everything around us is energy and if you don't believe that it will still make a good read and you might discover something new.

Everything is possible for the force of love, we are all made of it!

Much love to all,

Shakti x